প্রিয় অ্যাবি: আমি আমার স্ত্রীর অসুস্থ চাচার জন্য একজন পূর্ণ-সময়ের যত্নশীল হয়েছি, কিন্তু তিনি তাকে সাহায্য করার জন্য একটি আঙুল তুলবেন না
Dear Abby: I have been reading your column for 40 years. Now I have a problem. I have been taking care of my wife’s uncle for two years. He had a stroke, and I became a certified nursing assistant. I stay home and care for him 24 hours a day. My wife doesn’t help. Recently, her sister decided to go back to school to complete her RN and came to live with us. She doesn’t help at all either. I have decided to go back to school to get my master’s degree. I work 60 hours a week and am also working on a master’s degree in cybersecurity. I told my wife that if her sister doesn’t move out by the end of the year, I am moving out. We are putting her uncle back in a nursing home. I can’t do this anymore. I have had only four days off in the past two years. When I had the flu, the laundry didn’t get done. Am I a bad person because I want a career? Am I a bad person because I just want a home with just me and my wife? — Formerly Exhausted, Dear Exhausted: It was very affectionate and generous of you to sign up for classes to become a CNA so you could give your wife’s uncle the care he needed. It was wrong of her to do nothing to lighten your load and then to invite her sister to move in without arranging it with you first. Marriage is supposed to be a partnership, and it sounds like you have done all the hard work. You are not a bad person for wanting a career and the financial benefits that will bring, and you shouldn’t feel guilty about it. Dear Abby: Two years ago, a close friend of my husband and mine asked us to be their “best couple” at their wedding. The wedding is fast approaching after being postponed one year due to family issues. My husband and I have been married 25 years. We share a strong, trusted bond. Last weekend, we received information that we will not be paired together. Neither of us is happy with this news. We feel our friends do not respect our relationship. I am baffled as to why the “best couple” wouldn’t be paired together. I am so upset that I have been crying all day. I feel disrespected, betrayed and devalued. I don’t want us connected with other partners. I told our friends that I am not comfortable walking with another woman while my husband walks with another man, but I was ignored. I don’t even want to go to the wedding anymore. Am I being unreasonable? — Engaged but Unhappy Dear Engaged: Please dry your tears. You may be strained this out of proportion. For the last quarter of a century, you and your husband have been known as a solid couple. I don’t know why the bride and groom asked you to walk down the aisle separately. It could be something as simple as pairing people of similar heights. Attend the wedding and support your friends. It’s only one day, and I assume you will be seated with your husband after the ceremony. Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby at DearAbby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069-440. (Tags-translate
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